The holidays have a way of affecting us all. It can be subtle or very direct. The pace increases in our lives and the events become plentiful. Being able to enjoy the holidays is a goal I strive for every year. So what have I learned with 18 sober holidays under my belt?
1. Don’t let meetings take a back seat. If an event is in conflict make sure you have an alternative meeting to pick up.
2. This is a great time of year to practice NOT people pleasing. Do what you can and feel comfortable with. No explanations needed.
3. Come late leave early. This is a favorite of mine and cuts out much of the emotional baggage that can accumulate at a function.
4. Keep literature in the car with reinforcing pages marked. If your not ready to leave take five and read something that will help you stay connected.
5. Remind yourself of the true meaning of the holidays. Whatever you celebrate ~ key into the spiritual and try to flush the commercial.
6. Allow a few moments extra to slow down before holiday tasks such as shopping, cleaning, entertaining, decorating etc. Key in on that spiritual aspect again.
7. Don’t forget to HALT (Hungry Angry Lonely Tired.) Basic needs can get skipped in all the hub bub. Again slow down for a few minutes to make sure your needs are met ~ including meetings.
8. Get out that gratitude list ~ remember how it use to be ~ share your ESH if you are having trouble remembering.
9. Attend a sober activity instead of a function that may be too much too soon.
10. If the best you can do is not use ~ that is HUGE and should not be dismissed ~ that can be the BIGGEST gratitude you will ever have. Let all other aspects of the Holidays take the back seat.
11. Stay close to meetings, sponsors, support and counselors ~ pick up a commitment ~ you may not be aware of the effects the Holidays could be having on you.
12. Finally don’t forget the many alkathons that are held during this time of year. Find out where they are and put the information in your wallet.
written by Gwen R.